Ted Lowe joins me for Episode 66. Surviving Sarah male guest #2. I’ve known Ted and his wife Nancie for so many years so when I decided it was time to do another episode about marriage, I knew that he would be perfect for the show. We talk about some common myths of what make a marriage work and then some core habits that we can develop to get marriages into a healthy rhythm. So, pull up a chair to my kitchen table and join the conversation.
I hope you enjoyed my conversation with Ted. He is so easy to talk to and I hope you felt like what we talked about was doable. I think the biggest takeaway for me was the first core habit of having serious fun. I think its easy to let fun go to the bottom of the todem pole. Think about what you enjoy doing with your spouse? Think back to when you were first together. What did you enjoy doing together? What did you enjoy about each other? Sometimes, you just have to work a little harder to create those fun moments. I loved the statement that he suggested we tell our spouse: The thing about you that makes me say “wow” is ____.
- Ted's book Your Best Us
- Married People
- Enneagram Test
- How To Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It
- Sitting down in the morning typing out his prayers
- Enjoy the silence
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Takeaways From Our Conversation:
What are some common opinions about what it takes to make marriage work? 1. Its hard work. But what does that even mean? You didn’t get together in the first place in order to work. 2. Compatibility. Its not solid enough to base your marriage on. 3. Chemistry 4. Communication. @@We’ve been told that words lead to connection but really, connection leads to words@@.
How can we become our best us?
- Have serious fun. How do you protect your marriage from adultery? Be intoxicated, captivated by the wife of your youth. (Solomon) Basically, the answer is to enjoy your marriage. Its not an issue of feeling, but an issue of focus. Think about what you like to do together? Build up a reserve in your relationship bank. Affirm each other. Laugh together. Don’t forget that you are the boss of yourself so don’t buy into the myths.
- Love God First.
- Respect and Love. There’s a cycle of love and respect. When he gives unconditional love to her, it makes her respect more. Try something little. Thank him for going to work everyday. Compliment him. Catch him being a great dad. Andy Stanley said, “@@What’s rewarded is repeated@@.” It could be as easy as a text. What is one thing you could say? Men stay longer at work because they feel useful and respected at work.
- Practice Your Promise. "@@Marriage is not an event it is a process@@."
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