Episode 133: Rebekah Hargraves

I sat down with Rebekah Hargraves back in the early spring. She is a mom of two little kids, podcaster and author. Our worlds became very small when we realized that she got married at my parents event space in Tennessee. Is that funny? Rebekah joins me to talk about lies that we tend to believe as mothers, mommy guilt and how she overcomes the temptation to allow her identity to be defined by her ability to mother. 


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Takeaways From Our Conversation:

  • @@“You are not the sum total of how you mother.”@@ I don’t know about you, but I needed to hear that today. And if you are not a mother, I bet there is something you do that you tend to measure your worth and identity against. That temptation is so great. And I can see if I pull back a little how many of the times where I am frustrated at my kids, I can see that its because I ultimately feel my worth dwindling. 

  • 3 lies that are pervasive in motherhood: 

    • motherhood is your highest calling

    • finding your identity in motherhood

    • ultimate fulfillment in motherhood

Discussion Questions

  • We talked about catching the good in someone else. go around the circle and talk about something good that you see in someone (or their kids).
  • What is something that you get frustrated with in others that you deep down see in yourself?
  • Rebekah talked about how she romanticized motherhood. Think about where you are in life, in what ways did you romanticize your reality only to realize that its not quite what you pictured?
  • What lies do you tend to believe when it comes to motherhood (or any role or relationship you are in)?
  • If you have children, have you ever struggled with mommy guilt? What helps you when you are deep in that guilt?
  • What keeps you believing that God’s grace is enough for you?
  • In what ways has shame defined what you believe about yourself?
  • Do you struggle with perfectionism when it comes to parenting? If so, how does that affect your view of yourself?
  • In what ways have your mistakes draw you closer to God?
  • Rebecca mentioned three lies that are the most pervasive: motherhood is your highest calling, finding your identity in motherhood & ultimate fulfillment in motherhood. Which one of those do you tend to believe the most and how does it affect you and your relationships?

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