Amber Lia joins me for Episode 106. She is a mom to 4 boys as well as an author and owner of a production company in Los Angeles. Amber and Wendy Speaks have released a new book together called Parenting Scripts: When What Your Saying Isn’t Working Say Something New. I don’t know about you, but parenting has been the hardest job of my life. I am always trying to hit a moving target. And what worked yesterday doesn’t always work today. Many times, I find myself in a situation where I just don’t know what to say. And that is exactly why they wrote this book.
So I give her a few different scenarios from her book and ask her to help us know what to say. We talk about how to motivate your kids to do what they need to do; what to say when your kid argues and talks back; what to say when your kid faces disappointment; and what what to do if you and your partner are on different parenting pages.
- Parenting Scripts: When What Your Saying Isn’t Working Say Something New by Amber Lia and Wendy Speake
- Triggers book by Amber Lia and Wendy Speake
- Surviving Sarah episode 10 with Wendy Speake about Mom Anger
- As Silver Refined by Kay Author
Amber's Survival Kit:
Personal quiet time to read and refresh
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Takeaways From Our Conversation:
I think that the biggest takeaway for me was the need to take inventory of my words. What am I saying to my kids? I am often not intentional about my words. Am I building up or tearing down? I loved the advice about praying over them what you want to see in their lives. Such a good reminder for me.
How do you motivate your kids to do what they need to do? Turn those commands into conversations. Am I pointing out their fault all the time? Maybe as we start our day, pray “thank you Lord for ____, she is a girl who wants to have a wise heart… I saw her make the choice…” Breath life into your child by being specific.
What do you say when your kid argues and talks back? Maybe the root is that the child feels out of control. Is there some measure of control that we can give our kids? Maybe give your kids a “right to appeal”. Giving our kids some control doesn’t mean we lose ours. We are helping them learn how to use their voice.
What do you say when your kids face disappointment? Disappointment can shape their view of God. Disappointment can make us questions God’s goodness. Ask: what can you do when things are going the way you want them to? When you’re feeling down, look up. Its not about fixing their hurt, but about driving them to God in that moment so that they can see that God can work. Their circumstances don’t have more power over their lives than their God. Disappointment can be His-appointment.
What do you do when you are on a different parenting page from your partner? First thing to do is pray. Then, invite your loved one into the parenting things together. you are a team.
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