Episode 78: Shaunti Feldhahn

Best selling author and researcher, Shaunti Feldhahn joins me for Episode 78. I was honored to have her join me at my kitchen table. She’s written many books including For Women Only and For Men Only. And for today’s topic, we talked about the research she did for her book, “Through A Man’s Eyes: Helping Women Understand The Visual Nature of Men.” We took a deep dive into understanding how men are wired. We talk about why they are wired visually, how to help support the men in your life and how to help your son live with the brain they were given.

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  • Being Home

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Connect with Shaunti:  Instagram // Website  //  Facebook // Twitter // YouTube // Pinterest

Takeaways From Our Conversation:

  • I hope you enjoyed my conversation with Shaunti. I love people who can take research and make it relatable and conversational. My biggest takeaway was the idea of empathy—putting myself in their shoes. Because when we can put ourselves in their shoes, we can learn how to better support them when it comes to this topic. She said, “We are never going to get further intimacy with a man if we don’t try to talk about this.” Now, I bet the idea of talking about this subject with your husband or son makes you cringe or makes you want to crawl under the kitchen table. But what if you decided to talk about it. What if you decided to ask them what they think or feel? What if you decided to extend empathy and compassion towards them? Maybe a deeper intimacy is on the other side.

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Episode 77: Jody Noland

Jody Noland joins me for Episode 77. She is a Jesus follower, mom, author, speaker, and fiance at the young age of 60. But mostly she is an encourager. She loves to encourage people to encourage people. And because of that, she has a ministry called Leave Nothing Unsaid. It’s a ministry that encourages people to express their thoughts and feelings and affirmations about someone through a written letter. She has become a sort of letter evangelist.

Most people don’t know how to be encourager and how to pour their life into the people they love. And something powerful happens on someone’s heart when we put pen to paper. We talk about her story of why she started this ministry and practical ways to write a letter to the people you love.

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Connect with Jody:  Instagram // Website  //  Facebook

Takeaways From Our Conversation:

  • I hope you enjoyed my conversation with Jody. And I hope you were inspired and challenged to write letters. I know I was. Maybe you are like me and you have a million reasons to put off writing letters to the people you love. You don’t have time. You don’t know exactly what to say. But like Jody said, it doesn’t have to perfect. Don’t let perfection keep you from writing a letter. Don’t put off doing this because only God knows the number of our days. We should do this because our written words give life to the people we love. So, my first step is going to be writing a list of the people I need to write. Then, I’m going to look at a calendar for specific milestones is someone’s life and use that as a deadline. And if you need some help and direction, Jody’s workbook would be a great resource for you. It is a step by step guide to writing meaningful letters. 

  • Three things a letter contains: gratitude, appreciation, affirmation. Gratitude is the key to unlocking joy. Appreciation is about something you are glad they did for you. Affirmation is hard for people because its looking under the covers of someone.and saying these are some of the things about you that are so special. 

  • Do’s and Don’ts of letter writing:

    • just do it.

    • don’t get hung up in perfectionism

    • don’t use it as a platform for apologizing or criticizing.

    • don’t feel like your letter has to measure up to anyone else’s

    • don’t tell someone something that is not true

    • always sign it by hand even if you type it. seeing handwriting brings has memories & emotions

    • use memories as a way to support your affirmations

  • I was also challenged to pray big prayers. She was a widow for 9 years almost expecting that she wouldn't remarry, but at the age of 60 she is getting married. We run the risk of disappointment when we pray big prayers, but it is worth it.

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Episode 76: Jennifer Walker

Jennifer Walker from Moms On Call joins me again for Episode 76. She sat down with me for Episode 6 way back in the beginning of the show. What Jennifer and her colleagues at Moms On Call offer is so helpful! I have been having conversations offline with Jennifer since my oldest was 6 weeks old. And I always walk away feeling confident and capable and encouraged. And I want you to experience the same thing. So, I invited her back to the show to talk specifically about surviving toddlers. She answered some of your questions about discipline, meltdowns and sleeping through the night.

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  • God's Word
  • Good friends

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Connect with Jennifer:  Twitter // Website  //  Facebook

Takeaways From Our Conversation:

  • I hope you were encouraged by this conversation. If you are a parent or guardian, it is important to hear someone speak truth over you—to encourage you that @@you are capable and that God has chosen you to be the parent of that child@@. I’ll be honest, I wanted to hand in my resignation from motherhood letter earlier this week. Some phases are hard. Some phases feel like an eternity. And feeling like you aren’t equipped to handle the situation or child in front of you is demoralizing. But the truth is, God will fully equip me with what I need. He knows me fully and fully knows my kid. So, if you have had moments like me where you wanted to resign from motherhood, then I hope you know that you are not alone. And I hope that this episode was an encouragement to you.

  • When it comes to whatever hardship you are facing in parenting, it's important to establish the truth. For instance, take sleeping through the night. They (or you) are afraid. FEAR. What’s the truth? This kid is in a loving, safe environment. They will be fine to sleep through the night.

  • When it comes to discipline. Use bedtime as an opportunity to reinforce what they are to do and who they are. Go over your household rules before bedtime (Obey the first time; Don't hurt yourself; Don't hurt others.) Talk about what was great about today, then talk about the one thing you’re working on together. Kids like to have an identity. That gives them a structure. "This is what we do because we are ___." "We are kind, brave and wise because we are Bragg's."

  • HUG moment (hug, use a confident face, give positive feedback)

  • @@Your child’s behavior is not an indication of your self-worth@@. Jesus death and resurrection is an indication of your self-worth. Anything that we feel like was a mistake, Jesus has redeemed it. He doesn’t speak to condemnation. Close your heart to the voice of your own condemnation. He makes glory out of weakness.

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Episode 75: Ty Lewis

Ty Lewis joins me for Episode 75. She is affectionately known as Speaker of the House and is determined to walk in greatness. She is a motivational speaker, author, and change agent. She's authored 4 books: SPEAKing from the Heart, Black Boys: Our Hidden Treasure, Confessions of a CEO: 25 Lessons I Learned on the Journey to Becoming My Own Boss and her most recent book, Hello Bella.

We talk about purpose--how to discover your unique purpose, distractions that can get in the way of your purpose and advice to women who lead. Friends. I promise that you will be inspired by Ty. It felt like we experienced church around my kitchen table. There was so much good stuff said--it will come at your quickly so be ready.

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Takeaways From Our Conversation:

  • One of my favorite takeaways was when she said: "@@You don't have to be perfect, but be purposed@@." Maybe I'm the only one, but for some reason I feel like I need to be perfect in all that I do in order to be seen as good mom, good wife, good leader. But I'm training myself that showing up is enough. I'm trying to take the pressure off of being all the things to all the people. 

  • I absolutely love that she enables her girls to go ahead and pursue their dreams even though they are young.

  • What has God uniquely put in you? The purpose hasn't changed, but maybe the platform has. Purpose looks different in different seasons. Every season is intentional so we have to learn how to be complacent in that season and say, "God thank you for this season." Even if you hate it, there is still a purpose for being in that season.

  • When it comes to discovering your purpose, you must seek God first. "@@If you seek God in your first, you won't have to find Him in your last@@."

  • @@Looking and comparing yourself to others will distract you away from your purpose@@.

  • @@Being a CEO is not about being in a position of power, but a position of purpose@@.

  • If you are a woman who is leading anything, then be transparent, be a servant leaders and be bold. Do first whatever you will ask your team to do.

  • If you are a working mom, learn to rest.

What did you enjoy about this episode? What was your takeaway. Let's continue the conversation  on Instagram or Twitter or you can send me an email here

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Episode 74: Retha Nichole

Retha Nichole joins me for Episode 74. She is a life coach, the podcast host of My Light Still Shines and mom to three boys. I’m so thankful that this woman reached out to me over a year and a half ago because she has been such an encourager to me and has pushed me to be a more authentic me.

I think you are going to be really encouraged by our conversation. We talk about knowing you’re worth—how to discover it, ways to reevaluate it in different seasons and things that can destroy it. 

How many of you struggle to know the real you? I totally feel like a middle schooler these days because I’m really asking the question, “Who am I?” @@It is never too late to discover who you are@@. And I loved her advice to treat your worth and identity as something that is almost fluid. Meaning, whenever you face a life changing event or whenever you approach a milestone in life, take that as a cue to ask some questions about your identity.

Survival Kit:

  • YETI style cup from Buc-ee's in Texas
  • Starburst jelly beans
  • Journals

Connect with Retha:  Instagram // Website  //  Facebook // Twitter // Podcast

Takeaways From Our Conversation:

  • If you don’t know who you are then you are just taking what other people are telling you as the truth about you. Figure out your baseline for things. What is your baseline for why you eat what you eat? What is your baseline for why you get up when you do? What is your baseline for what you do?

  • Sometimes we are doing things in motherhood that we don’t like to do so we think we hate motherhood. Maybe you just aren't supposed to be doing those things. Are there things that you don’t have to do?

  • Ask yourself when life change happens: What’s different about me with this life changing event?

  • Ask yourself: Who are you? Then whatever the answer is stay true to that. Stay true to yourself. Don’t allow people and things to determine who you are. 

What did you enjoy about this episode? What was your takeaway. Let's continue the conversation  on Instagram or Twitter or you can send me an email here

Thank you for following along life with me. I love being apart of your day. And as always, I hope this show helps you survive a little easier.

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