Episode 66: Ted Lowe

Ted Lowe joins me for Episode 66. Surviving Sarah male guest #2. I’ve known Ted and his wife Nancie for so many years so when I decided it was time to do another episode about marriage, I knew that he would be perfect for the show. We talk about some common myths of what make a marriage work and then some core habits that we can develop to get marriages into a healthy rhythm. So, pull up a chair to my kitchen table and join the conversation.

I hope you enjoyed my conversation with Ted. He is so easy to talk to and I hope you felt like what we talked about was doable. I think the biggest takeaway for me was the first core habit of having serious fun. I think its easy to let fun go to the bottom of the todem pole. Think about what you enjoy doing with your spouse? Think back to when you were first together. What did you enjoy doing together? What did you enjoy about each other? Sometimes, you just have to work a little harder to create those fun moments. I loved the statement that he suggested we tell our spouse: The thing about you that makes me say “wow” is ____. 

Links:

Survival Kit:

  • Sitting down in the morning typing out his prayers
  • Enjoy the silence

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Connect with Ted:  Instagram // Website  // Facebook // Twitter 

Takeaways From Our Conversation:

  • What are some common opinions about what it takes to make marriage work? 1. Its hard work. But what does that even mean? You didn’t get together in the first place in order to work. 2. Compatibility. Its not solid enough to base your marriage on. 3. Chemistry 4. Communication. @@We’ve been told that words lead to connection but really, connection leads to words@@.

  • How can we become our best us? 

    • Have serious fun. How do you protect your marriage from adultery? Be intoxicated, captivated by the wife of your youth. (Solomon) Basically, the answer is to enjoy your marriage. Its not an issue of feeling, but an issue of focus. Think about what you like to do together? Build up a reserve in your relationship bank. Affirm each other. Laugh together. Don’t forget that you are the boss of yourself so don’t buy into the myths.
    • Love God First
    • Respect and Love. There’s a cycle of love and respect. When he gives unconditional love to her, it makes her respect more. Try something little. Thank him for going to work everyday. Compliment him. Catch him being a great dad. Andy Stanley said, “@@What’s rewarded is repeated@@.” It could be as easy as a text. What is one thing you could say? Men stay longer at work because they feel useful and respected at work.
    • Practice Your Promise. "@@Marriage is not an event it is a process@@."

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While You're Weekending

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Hey there, friends. I hope you're having a relaxing weekend. I just dropped my two off with the grandparents so an afternoon alone is all the therapy that I needed. I'm a firm believer that Starbucks + alone time can cure just about anything. 

As you are weekending, I wanted to share a few things with you. I had the privilege to share parts of my story with two different blogs this week. I am always extremely honored when asked to share.

Charlotte Peters asked me awhile back to participate in her survival series. I talk about how to find strength in the darkest moments, what it means to me to survive and my greatest achievement. "For me, finding my voice in each season of life has been a great achievement. My voice looked different when I was in my twenties and single than it does now that I’m nearly 40, married with kids. The greatest achievement though was finding my voice again after it had been lost for nearly 4 years. After it had been crushed by others. Walking through the darkness of wondering if I’d ever contribute to the world again in the ways in which I enjoy was frightening and paralyzing. But starting my podcast, Surviving Sarah, has brought such a sense of excitement and refreshment knowing that I have found my voice and I can use my voice in a way to help other women be encouraged, inspired and entertained to survive in their own lives."

To read the interview, click here.

Then, I recorded an episode of Broken Crayons Still Color with Shelley Hitz about learning how to find contentment with who God made me to be. I start by telling how I discovered my imperfect body, the lowest point for my struggle, the turning point and my advice for anyone in a similar place.

Finally, if you are having a sad day, let me tell you what works for me (besides Starbucks). The other night was a rough one. So many fights happening in the house that by the time the kids got in bed, I was spent. I was upset and angry. And I knew exactly what I needed. Watch this and I promise you will smile the whole time. (And if you are not a Bruno Mars fan, then I've got nothing for you....hahaha)

And while I'm talking Bruno Mars. His latest album has a song called Perm on it. Y'all, it makes me laugh and I want to say the tagline to my girls and myself all the time: "Throw some perm on that attitude. Girl, you gotta relax." That is my weekend benediction for you.

Episode 65: Jordan Baker Watts

Jordan Baker Watts joins me for Episode 65. She is a jack of all trades when it comes to ministry. She’s a musician, vocalist, worship leader, writer, author, podcast, speaker but at the center of it all, she has a heart about encouraging the hearts of moms. We talk highly important things like locking our kids outside, how raising kids has turned us into middle schoolers, and how bodysuits do not need to come back into fashion.

And as we solved so many of life’s problems, we also talked about some amazing things like how to find the hilarity in motherhood, what to do if you struggle with depression, and how to live the abundant life that God has placed before you.

I loved sitting across the table from her and laughing about life. Her desire to laugh at all things truly comes out. I had so many takeaways from our conversation, but I want to highlight here about how isolating motherhood can be. And honestly, you don’t have to be a mother to feel isolated. You can be single or married without kids. Often, we as women, find ourselves in seasons of life where we feel isolated and alone. And instead of opening up about it, we choose to suffer in silence. So I want to encourage you to tell someone. Open up to someone you trust. I have a small group of close friends—my squad if you will—who we can be honest with each other. We need the place to say things like, “I am just really hurting.” “I can’t seem to get out of bed.” We need people to encourage us and come alongside us as we walk through things. I love that she said, “Its never too late to do something about it. If you know that this isn’t the abundant life that God has called you to, then you can be changed.” So, ask God to show you one thing that He wants to change in you.

Links:

Survival Kit:

  • Primer for eyelashes and good mascara (Urban Decay brand)
  • Apple Computer
  • LaCroix
  • Netflix - The Crown
  • Hulu - Designated Survivor, This Is Us

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Connect with Jordan:  Instagram // Website  // Facebook // twitter // podcast // Huffington Post

Takeaways From Our Conversation:

  • Take time to look for the moments that are peppered into the stressful moments and challenging moments. @@Motherhood is hard. Laugh and find joy in the great moments and the hard moments@@. God can still bring great joy in the midst of the difficult.
  • @@God has called us to live in freedom here and now@@. Relinquish the sense of control that we think we have and let Him be God and we just be moms. There is so much freedom that comes from that. Stop stressing out over every little thing. Step back and let Him be God. Enjoy the life He’s given you.

  • There are so many hurting women—especially in the church—who think this is solely a spiritual battle and they suffer in silence. If you are really struggling, go see a doctor or counselor. Motherhood can be so isolating. Sometimes you don’t have an outlet to talk about things so you need to take the initiative. For most people, depression is a slow decline and you don’t realize that you are depressed.

  • God doesn’t need a miserable servant. Figure out how He has wired you and use it to further His kingdom. You don’t need to prove yourself to yourself, to God, or to others. It's never too late to do something about it. If you know that this isn’t the abundant life that God has called you to, then you can be changed. What is one thing you want to change in me right now?

  • @@Own what is unique and true about you. When you do that, freedom inevitably will follow@@. Look at what you are doing and think, “How can I be the best me?” Not how can I be the best. Someone will always be better. Examine what makes you come to life and what is special about you that could be tools to be used for God’s kingdom. Make a list of what fills you and drains you. Then, just be the best me and do it how God has wired you—not how he has wired others. @@Take your eyes off of other people and be obedient to God alone@@.

  • You can experience an abundant life right now. What areas am I living where I haven’t stepped out of the shackles? Ask God and then run free. 

  • @@Just because someone else does something doesn’t diminish your value@@. When you feel that sense of insecurity rise up, say to yourself: "I take myself out of the running for being the best _____" Fill in that blank for you.

What did you enjoy about this episode? What was your takeaway. Let's continue the conversation  on Instagram or Twitter or you can send me an email here

Thank you for following along life with me. I love being apart of your day. And as always, I hope this show helps you survive a little easier.

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Episode 64: Kayla Craig

Kayla Craig joins me for Episode 64. She is a journalist turned stay at home mom, is married to a pastor and together they have four kids under the age of 6. So she's not busy at all. We talk about the book she wrote, Just Really Joseph, her new podcast called UpsideDown, and a lot of motherhood like why they chose to adopt, parenting special needs kids and the importance of having a form of acceptance knowing that whatever God calls you to that you are enough. 

I hope you enjoyed my conversation with Kayla. I loved every bit of it. I loved her advice that she would give to another mother who is parenting a child with special needs. It was about accepting where God has placed you and know that you are enough that you are their advocate and that He has picked you to parent that child for a reason. That is great advice for me as a parent as I parent a strong willed child. Or maybe for you its a job. Often times we don't feel enough or adequate, but Christ is our adequacy. He enables us. There is freedom that comes when accept our role or circumstances. 

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Connect with Kayla:  Instagram // Website  // Facebook 

Takeaways From Our Conversation:

  • Sometimes we can see God’s refining work in the middle of things. @@God is polishing us to reflect Him more@@. It helps me to remember that truth.
  • How can the church partner better with parents of special needs? "Love their kids for who they are despite who they want them to be." Just be an extra set of hands. 
  • Remind each other of the freedom we have in Christ. @@You are enough in Christ for whatever He has called you to do@@.

What did you enjoy about this episode? What was your takeaway. Let's continue the conversation  on Instagram or Twitter or you can send me an email here

Thank you for following along life with me. I love being apart of your day. And as always, I hope this show helps you survive a little easier.

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Episode 63: Jacey Verdicchio

Jacey Verdicchio joins me for episode 63. You may know her well from the popular podcast called Around The Table. Jacey and I became Voxer friends last year and I thought it would be fun to talk about finding your fit or your place in work. Do you feel lost in what you’re doing? Maybe you are a recent college grad but don’t know what to do next? O maybe you’re a mom who is drowning in a sea of diapers and wonder if there is more to life? Or maybe you find yourself at a mid-life stage of life and feel like its time for a change? If that is you, then this episode was designed with you in mind. 

We talk about thinking outside of the box of what work might look like for you, what to do when you feel unsure of what to do next and advice that we would give to our twenty year old selves.

I hope you enjoyed my chat with Jacey. She is such a smart, hard-working woman. I really enjoyed the part of our conversation centered around the idea that God is working something in you even if the circumstances around you aren’t quite panning out the way you wanted. She said, “I think God is more concerned about our character than our circumstances.” Amen to that… even as much as that is tough to hear, my heart knows its true.

Links:

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Connect with Jacey:  Instagram // Website // Twitter // Podcast

Takeaways From Our Conversation:

  • Sometimes it's difficult to figure out who you are and what you want to do. And when that happens, it helps to just do the next right thing. We could wait all day for the answer or we could jump from thing to thing in order to try to find that thing. We have to manage the tension between the two. For me, learning contentment has helped. And on the other hand, sometimes action is simply required. We could end up waiting around all day for the answer. It's okay if you don't know exactly how it will all work out. @@When you feel lost and you don’t know what’s coming down the pipe, look around and just do the next thing in front of you@@.
  • Sometimes I want an ideal job that meets all my criteria but sometimes its just about doing the work and allowing God to sanctify me though it. @@I think God is a lot more concerned about our character than our circumstances@@. This applied greatly to me in regards to my job as parent. I keep waiting for God to change my child, but maybe I need to focus on what He may be trying to sanctify in me.

What did you enjoy about this episode? What was your takeaway. Let's continue the conversation  on Instagram or Twitter or you can send me an email here

Thank you for following along life with me. I love being apart of your day. And as always, I hope this show helps you survive a little easier.

A new episode every Tuesday... just subscribe.

Subscribe for free on iTunes or Stitcher or your favorite podcast app so that you don't miss out on great conversations with women just like you. Women who are surviving and thriving. You don't have to do life alone. Be inspired, encouraged and entertained by women like Sandra Stanley, Shannan Martin, Jamie B. Golden, Mo Isom, Annie F. Downs, Joni Lay from Lay Baby Lay, Christy Nockels and many more.

Did you enjoy today's conversation? Rate the podcast.

My goal each week is to encourage you to survive in this very thing called life. If you were encouraged or inspired or entertained, head over to iTunes and leave a brief review with a 5 star rating.

Here is a recent one from osborne.shay:  "I have been really thankful for your podcast in 2016. You are one of the most relatable casters and I'm thankful for your realness. Thank you for sharing yourself with the world. I have added many podcasts to my listening last year, but yours remains one of my must listen-to's and I'm grateful. Keep it up, Sarah!" 

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