Episode 127: Natalie Brenner

Natalie Brenner joins me for today’s episode. A mutual friend connected us and I knew pretty immediately that you would resonate with her story. Natalie is wife, mom, photographer and author who is passionate about justice, Jesus and digging into a life of grace. She married young and quickly decided to grow her family through adoption.

While walking through that process, she suffered a miscarriage, loss of dreams and loss of jobs. If you have ever been in a place where you experienced both sorrow and joy, then you will relate to Natalie’s story. She learned first hand what it is like for your prayers to be answered in different ways than expected. We talk about her miscarriage, her adoption, the trauma she experienced in child birth, loss of her husband’s job along with some advice for women who are currently left sitting with expectations unmet. 

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Natalie's Survival Kit:

  • Text Groups with friends

  • Pour over coffee

  • Gilmore Girls

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Takeaways From Our Conversation:

  • “Your deepest aches and pains are so valid and so worth tending to. In order for us to love other people well, we need to tend to those spaces.” That is such good advice. Sometimes we want to cover up how we feel and we feel guilty for our feelings. Your feelings are valid and worth tending to. They are worth processing through to get to truth. You don’t have to cover them up. Sometimes life just sucks. There is no other way to say it. You have the permission to sit in the sorrow. But sometimes our deepest pain can be connected to our greatest joy. 

  • What is something that you prayed for that God answered in an unexpected way?

  • Do you feel like you have permission to be honest about your feelings? Why or why not?

  • What are you wrestling with God about? 

  • When is a time that you experienced both sorrow and joy?

  • In what ways have you seen how your deepest sorrow was connected to your greatest joy?

  • What is something that you can do today to help see that God is with you in the midst of the hard?

What did you enjoy about this episode? What was your takeaway. Let's continue the conversation  on Instagram or Twitter or you can send me an email here

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Episode 126: Shaunti Feldhahn

It was a privilege to welcome back to the show, Shaunti Feldhahn. She received her graduate degree from Harvard University and was an analyst on Wall Street before unexpectedly becoming a social researcher, best-selling author and popular speaker. She joined me on Episode 78 to talk about how men are wired.

But today, I asked her to come back on the show to talk about her new research. We talk about what it looks like to actually find rest. We talk about what true rest really looks like, what was surprising about her research, why women want to remain busy, how fear plays a role, and how to retrain yourself to notice the good which in turn brings you rest. 

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Shaunti's Survival Kit:

  • Pulling out perspective

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Takeaways From Our Conversation:

  • So much of our stress, worry and anxiety doesn’t have to be there. God promises rest. We often sabotage our own rest. Most of us have bought into the lie that we can have it all and be it all and we are not designed for that. So we have to make choices. Because we don’t want to miss something.

  • We feel better about ourselves when our calendar is full. And we worry about missing out. Social media can feed that in use.

  • Be a person who FEELS at rest even when you are busy and running around. Its not about figuring out how to not be busy. Life is just going to be busy. You have to figure out how to find rest in the midst of it.

  • These are all good things and you have to choose one. You have to believe that you won’t end up losing something but finding something. We have to learn to make choices. There is a common denominator running through the anxiety. And a lot of it has to do with the fact that we haven’t really learned to prioritize.

  • We are allowing things that cause anxiety to be our focus. What can you focus on that is excellent and worthy of praise?

  • Try the 30 day challenge - for 30 days, don't say something negative about that person or situation but instead say something kind and positive and generous.

What did you enjoy about this episode? What was your takeaway. Let's continue the conversation  on Instagram or Twitter or you can send me an email here

Thank you for following along life with me. I love being apart of your day. And as always, I hope this show helps you survive a little easier.

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Episode 125: Lynn Cowell

Author and communicator, Lynn Cowell, joins me to talk about raising girls to be both strong and nurturing women. Lynn has raised two girls who are now in their early twenties so she has a wealth of experience and knowledge to bring to the table. We talk about advice for raising girls through the tween phase, how she navigated raising girls that were different from each other, how to help girls understand that their worth comes from God, how we as moms can help foster our girls uniqueness and how to raise strong and brave women. This conversation will encourage your heart as a woman whether you have daughters or not. 

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Lynn's Survival Kit:

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Takeaways From Our Conversation:

  • A girl's confidence peaks at 9 years old. Comparison happens after age 9.

  • We can be careful about what we say in front of our girls. Model how to handle rejection or change in body. 

  • During the tween phase, be sure to tell your daughters that they are beautiful but be sure to talk about the internal beauty too. Pay more attention to what is going on in their hearts.

  • Encourage your girls to not build their confidence on that thing (that they love or are good at). Our temptation will be to build our confidence on what we can do but those things can change.

  • "The smaller our daughters' worlds are the harder their life becomes."

  • Proverbs 31 uses a word "noble" which means WARRIOR.  Girls need to know that they can be both BRAVE and NURTURING.

  • Be a chain of courage for your girls. If you are scared. Do it anyways! "And if God is behind it, its gonna happen. but if not, you don’t lose, you learn." We must teach our girls to be brave enought to try. Failure is not bad. "Failure is an opportunity to learn something that you didn’t have before."

What did you enjoy about this episode? What was your takeaway. Let's continue the conversation  on Instagram or Twitter or you can send me an email here

Thank you for following along life with me. I love being apart of your day. And as always, I hope this show helps you survive a little easier.

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Episode 124: Brett Trapp

Brett Trapp, author of the Blue Babies Pink blog and podcast, joins me. His podcast was one of my top recommendations for last year. Brett has a gift of storytelling and his podcast was just that. It is a story of growing up gay and Christian in the south. Brett joins me around the table to tell his story. The conversation isn’t a theological debate. It isn’t question of whether its right or wrong. It’s simply his story. What I’ve noticed in my life is that when we hear someone’s story, empathy follows.

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Brett's Survival Kit:

  • Hard boiled eggs
  • Jazz Music

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Takeaways From Our Conversation:

  • @@“Story creates empathy.”@@ I loved that quote. If you are a parent, you know that is true. That’s why you read fiction and story book to your kids. The story opens up conversation about how the characters feel. That is what I hope you felt today. My goal wasn’t to create a theological debate, but to simply create an opportunity for empathy. It's hard to hate someone when you get to know them or hear their story.

  • I think so much of what was said today could apply to other scenarios. If you are carrying any sort of secret, keeping it in the dark gives it the power to make you feel alone and unworthy of belonging. Or I find it easy to be wrapped up in what people think of me. And what he said it so true: “It is an absolute curse to spend your life obsessing about what other people think.” Or if you find yourself really disagreeing with someone about something, how can you give them grace and understanding so that you can still love even though you disagree. 

  • Stepping out in vulnerability is never as bad as you expect it to be.

  • @@Figure out the people whose opinions really do matter and then don't pay attention to the rest.@@

  • Advice to parents (listen to the Lifeboats episode):

    • -do no harm - if you have to choose between saying too much or saying too little, just don’t say anything in that moment

    • try to avoid theology conversation in that moment

    • don’t make it about you

    • remind them that you love them and that nothing will ever change that

  • @@“The key to happiness is accepting things for what they are not what you wish they were.”@@

What did you enjoy about this episode? What was your takeaway. Let's continue the conversation  on Instagram or Twitter or you can send me an email here

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Episode 123: Melanie Dale

It’s that time again for another crossover episode with my friend, Melanie Dale. I just love getting to sit down with her and talk about life. Each month we pick a topic and have a conversation about it. Then, you get to listen to one part here on Surviving Sarah and another part over on Melanie’s podcast called Lighten Up with Melanie Dale. So don’t forget to head over to her podcast and listen to the other half.

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With spring having sprung—at least for the south—we thought it would be a good time to talk about personal growth and self-care. In this part of the conversation, we talk about how we are doing on personal growth goals that we set in January, how we incorporate self-care into our week, what it looks like when we don’t take care of ourselves and how we can learn to pay attention to our bodies and minds so that we don’t crash. 

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Sponsors:

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  • FabFitFun - Check out FABFITFUN.com and use the code “SS” so you can save $10 off your first box, making it only $39.99.

(Amazon affiliate links used when possible--purchasing through these links is an easy way to support the show. Or shop using www.SurvivingSarah.com/amazon and a portion of the what you buy will go back to the show.)

Connect with Melanie:  Website // Instagram // Facebook // twitter // Podcast

Takeaways From Our Conversation:

  • What has Melanie been working on this year: yoga, prayer, mentorship

  • What has Sarah been working on this year: being strong, healthy and active

  • Melanie clumps her schedule. She puts like things together on the same day which helps her be more productive.

  • Sarah has been working on scheduling. Carving out one day a week for nothing but productivity. And doing something at least once a week that is for her. What is something life giving that you could incorporate into your week?

  • What does it look like when you neglect to care for yourself?

  • What is a cue that you could look for that let's you know you're about to crash?

  • Intermittent Phone Fasting - What could that look like for you?

What did you enjoy about this episode? What was your takeaway. Let's continue the conversation  on Instagram or Twitter or you can send me an email here

Thank you for following along life with me. I love being apart of your day. And as always, I hope this show helps you survive a little easier.

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