Episode 140: Sarah Beckman

Sarah Beckman joins me today. She is a mother to 3 kids between the ages of 17-21. If you are a mother entering in the high school phase, she would be a great person to friend. Our conversation is focused around her book which is called Alongside: A Practical Guide For Loving Your Neighbor in Their Time of Trial. We have a practical conversation around how to come alongside someone you knew who is walking through a difficult season or circumstance. We talk about what loving your neighbor really looks like, excuses we often give to not step in and what we can do in light of each excuse.

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I can’t tell you how timely my conversation was with her. We recorded in mid-July and less than 2 weeks later, I had the opportunity to put into practice what we talked about. This month alone, I have experienced the death of several people. And this conversation helped prepare me for how to handle that.

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Connect with Sarah:  Facebook // Website // twitter // Instagram

Takeaways From Our Conversation:

  • Relationship tiers:

    1 - family

    2 - friends

    3 - people we see on the soccer field/acquaintences

    4 - an association (like my sister’s friend)

  • “Busy is not an emotion.” (Sarah Bragg) To combat busy, do something you are already doing and then do that to help someone. Make a specific offer, only offer what you can do.

  • "When we cultivate a mentality of ‘I can’ then there’s a lot of things we can do to love someone in their trial.” (Sarah Beckman)

  • “I don’t know what to say” To discern between helpful and unhelpful things to say:

    • Acknowledge / Affirm / Express (your empathy, that you will be there)

    • when you’re not sure what words to say maybe say no words

Discussion Questions

  • What is your response when you see someone in need? (Do you feel overwhelmed? Do you go into fix it mode? etc)
  • What excuses do you hear or give to not step in when someone is in need or is hurting?
  • Talk about a time when you were hurting or going through a hard season or a new season and how someone came alongside you. What was helpful and/or what wasn't helpful?
  • What tends to keep you from stepping into the mess of others?
  • Do you feel compelled to step into every mess or do you struggle more with stepping into any mess?
  • Take some talk about talk about the relationship tiers (family, friends, acquaintances and associations). Think through people you know who are going through something difficult. Place them into those categories. Based on what Sarah talked about, what could you do to help those people?
  • What is something you can offer someone in need that is in your gifting or skill set?

What did you enjoy about this episode? What was your takeaway. Let's continue the conversation  on Instagram or Twitter or you can send me an email here

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Episode 139: Hettie Brittz

Hettie Brittz joins me for today’s episode. She has been married to her husband for 25 years and they have three kids (2 teenagers and one in college). She is also a speaker, author, and a foremost voice in parenting advice and personality styles. She is from South Africa but is currently residing in the United States. She has created a course to help people understand how they are wired and codeveloped the Tall Trees Profile which helps parents understand their child’s temperament.

I have to say that this was one of my favorite conversations. There is something vulnerable about it. I have a great desire to understand myself better and to understand my children better. We have a conversation about how understanding how you are wired will help you parent better; how working with traumatized kids helped her see how understanding temperaments was the key to helping unlock the heart and she unpacked the different temperament types. She said, “When you understand what our kids need, we get the motivation to parent.” What we talked about gave me so much hope. I felt understood. And I started to understand my girls better. I hope you enjoy this episode as much as I did. 

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Survival Kit:

  • Stopping once a day to look around and celebrate what you have instead of focusing on what is left to do

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Connect with Hettie:  Facebook // Website // twitter // Ministry

Takeaways From Our Conversation:

  • What is the difference between temperament and personality? Personality is what we show to the world. Its like what grows above the ground and how they express their design in the world. Temperament is like how the root system nourishes what grows above the ground. Its your God given soul DNA. It doesn’t change. Its a clue to where that path is leading.

  • Tall Tree Profile Types:

    • Boxwood tree - introvert, you can prune them into any shape you like, boundaries, rules, want to know what’s expected, what’s right and wrong

    • Pine Tree - introvert, takes stress away, bring peace, stubborn in a quiet way, thinkers more than doers or talkers, like being spectators rather than participants, they don’t want to be alone, but don’t want to be on center stage

    • Palm Tree - extroverts, people, fun to be had, living life full, bright side, resilient, optimism, also in discipline too, not easy to bend and shape

    • Rose Bush - extroverts, don’t want to be cuddled, grown up before one, tantrums first, strong willed, don’t need a mom, thorns, pride, competitive, achieve

  •  I asked if there were certain types there were more difficult to work together. She said, “That depends—do you want to grow or have it easy. When temperaments clash there are opportunities to grow.” Mic Drop. That has been shifting the way I see conflict in our house. 

Discussion Questions

  • Do you ever feel like motherhood is not in your strengths?
  • Hettie talked about how having no control in parenting was the most difficult thing. What has been the hardest thing about motherhood for you?
  • Knowing what causes burnout, what is one thing you could do this week to help with that?
  • What is one area of emotional intelligence that you could flex in your own life?
  • If you have taken a personality or temperament profile, what were your results? How have you seen these take shape in how you parent?
  • What does burn out look like for you in motherhood?
  • How can you give your child what they perceive as love?
  • How do you handle conflict? 
  • What is something that really stood out to you about this episode?
  • If you have taken the tall trees profile, what were the results? What surprised you?
  • What is one thing you can do to help love your child based on their profile?

What did you enjoy about this episode? What was your takeaway. Let's continue the conversation  on Instagram or Twitter or you can send me an email here

Thank you for following along life with me. I love being apart of your day. And as always, I hope this show helps you survive a little easier.

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Episode 138: Elizabeth Grace Saunders

Elizabeth Grace Saunders joins me today from my new kitchen table. Our family moved into a new rental home back in July and it was fun to record the inaugural episode around my kitchen table in the new house. Elizabeth is an internationally recognized expert on effective time management and the founder of Real Life E Time Coaching and Speaking. She joins me today to talk about the idea of divine time management which is all about aligning yourself with God's heart. We talk about why we feel guilty for resting; where to start when it comes to organizing our day; why we tend to say yes to everything; and advice for how to prioritize our time during a busy season.

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Survival Kit:

  • Walks by the water

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Connect with Elizabeth Grace:  Facebook // Website // twitter

Takeaways From Our Conversation:

  • When talking about the struggle of doing more or being successful and feeling anxiety around that, she said that she felt like God was saying to her, “You just make me happy for being you.”

  • 3 part strategy to figuring out where to start when you feel overwhelmed:

  1. Get connected with God - that gives us perspective. @@“God doesn’t ask us to be successful. He just asks us to be obedient and walk with Him."@@ 

  2. Declutter your schedule. Take a macro level look at what’s going on in your life right now; Lay out what are your commitments/activities; Then look at what is most important. Be careful about what you say yes to. 

  3. Day to day. Ask God what he wants you to do today. Do those things and trust Him with the rest.

  • How to prioritize your time in your busy season:
    1. Be proactive
    2. Have clear communication and have things laid out - have a weekly calendar and monthly calendar with expectations of what’s going on; look ahead at your week. Look at your fixed expenses (work, school, etc) and your disposable time income.

Discussion Questions

  • What do you do to rest?
  • Have you ever felt guilty for resting? 
  • What false expectations or lies drive your inability to rest? 
  • In what ways is your worth tied to what you do or don’t do?
  • What is making you feel overwhelmed currently?
  • What do you think holds you back from trusting God when it comes to what you do?
  • What is something you are trying to control rather than trust?
  • Based on this conversation, what is one thing you can do this week with what was discussed?

What did you enjoy about this episode? What was your takeaway. Let's continue the conversation  on Instagram or Twitter or you can send me an email here

Thank you for following along life with me. I love being apart of your day. And as always, I hope this show helps you survive a little easier.

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Episode 137: Melanie Dale

It’s that time again for another crossover episode with my good friend, Melanie Dale. And if you are new to the show and haven’t heard one of these episodes you are in for a treat! Each month, Melanie and I sit down and have a conversation about a topic that we are both surviving and that we could lighten up about. So one part is here and the part of the conversation is on her show, Lighten Up with Melanie Dale. So be sure to hop over there when are you are finished listening to this one.

This month we are talking about going back to school. Can you believe summer is over??? We talk about our favorite grades growing up, being our kid’s advocate at school, tips on how to relate to your kids’ teachers in non-overbearing ways, how we handle homework and first day of school traditions. 

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Discussion Questions

  • What helped you survive this summer?
  • What was your favorite grade growing up and what did you love about it?
  • What do you look forward to about school starting? What do you dread?
  • If you had a hard year in school, share about it what made it hard and what helped (or could have helped)?
  • Have you ever had to be your kid's advocate at school? What helped you navigate that?
  • What are your best tips for connecting with your kid's teacher without being overbearing?

What did you enjoy about this episode? What was your takeaway. Let's continue the conversation  on Instagram or Twitter or you can send me an email here

Thank you for following along life with me. I love being apart of your day. And as always, I hope this show helps you survive a little easier.

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Episode 136: Heather MacFadyen

I am so excited to welcome Heather MacFadyen to the show today. You likely know her from the God Centered Mom podcast. She’s been hosting that show for 5 years! If you don’t know her already, she’s a mom to 4 boys. We talk about fears that we have and how fear is the root problem to other emotions we have like anger; we talk about guilt and shame in motherhood and what to do when shame is driving your identity. 

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Takeaways From Our Conversation:

  • “Not a rejection. Its a direction."
  • "Its hard to change our feelings but we can change our thoughts."
  • Heather said 3 words: feeling, thinking, acting. When you feel an emotion rise up like anger for example, at some point during it or after ask yourself: What do I feel? What am I thinking? How do I act? I think that most of us are used to be reactionary people. But if we want to get to the root issue then we need to do a little work. Such good advice from Heather today.

Discussion Questions

  • What is your favorite summer survival hack?
  • What are some things you did or do as a family that has become a fun tradition?
  • What type of fear do you tend to wrestle with when it comes to your kids of those closest to you?
  • In what ways has motherhood revealed not so pretty things about yourself?
  • How are you tempted to deal with the pain that comes up in life?
  • How can you remove yourself as mother out of the equation—to not take it personal? 
  • Where do you feel guilt in motherhood?
  • How has shame defined what you believe about yourself?

What did you enjoy about this episode? What was your takeaway. Let's continue the conversation  on Instagram or Twitter or you can send me an email here

Thank you for following along life with me. I love being apart of your day. And as always, I hope this show helps you survive a little easier.

A new episode every Tuesday... just subscribe.

Subscribe for free on iTunes or Stitcher or your favorite podcast app so that you don't miss out on great conversations with women just like you. Women who are surviving and thriving. You don't have to do life alone. Be inspired, encouraged and entertained by women like Sandra Stanley, Shannan Martin, Jamie B. Golden, Mo Isom, Annie F. Downs, Joni Lay from Lay Baby Lay, Christy Nockels, Kay Warren, Suzanne Stabile and many more.

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